Hello. I am a bi-curious female. I am not even sure i will ever have the courage ( yes courage!)to get to know what it is like to be with a woman, but i would love to be able to talk with persons who have a similar curiosity as i do. I would prefer to reach out online as i wouldnt want to be “known” unless i have some level of comfort. Do you know any like minded persons? Has anyone else ever reached out with a query similar to mine? Help!!!!
First I want to apologize or posting this without your consent, but the contact information you provided was invalid. I’m hoping you will revisit the blog to see my response. Before you do anything, I suggest you decide if this is the lifestyle for you and if you are ready to accept the conditions that come along with it(especially if you are residing in Jamaica). Meaning, not everyone is going to agree with or understand your lifestyle, but you will have to be confident in knowing who you are in order to withstand the backlash. The last thing you want to do is open that door and not know which direction to go. Now, if and when you decide that you want to act on your desires, my advise is first find someone that you can confide in; having that line of support is critical. I would not have made it this far without it. There will be times when you WILL need someone to talk to, and not having that outlet will overwhelm you. The next thing is you have to be honest with people. Since you mentioned that you wanted to explore online. Don’t start out by lying and being deceitful. There are people out there who will understand that you are not where you want to be on your journey and will work with you; but the key is to be completely honest. All of what I am saying is form my personal experience. I have been there! Knowing I was attracted to girls and afraid to do anything about it. I also didn’t have the courage to be open with who I was. When I decided to explore my feelings, I was not honest with the women I brought in the situation, and that cost me a really good friend. Thankfully, I found my line of support. Someone I could open up to. She opened my eyes to a lot of things. But the most important thing she told me was that “At the end of the day, it is your happiness.” It took a while for me to really understand what that meant, but I hope you will as well. If you need further advise, please don’t hesitate to reach out again.
Good Luck on your journey–GJ
I will stand up for what I believe in. I believe everyone has the right to live their lives any way they so choose, as long as it doesn’t bring physical harm to other persons. I am a lesbian and I refuse to let anyone tell me that I cannot live my life as such. For those that do not condone it, that is your right as well. What is not your right, is trying to convince or force me to be someone I am not. You don’t have to like the gay or lesbian lifestyle, but you will respect it!
“It is never ok to out someone. We all have to walk our own paths and do it our own pace.
As an individual that partakes in the events of social media, I have stumbled on some recent events that have me puzzled. First, let me say that there are a lot of lesbians living in Jamaica. I would also estimate that about 95% of them are still in the closet. Being in the closet is not an issue for me, because I’ve been there. We all have to walk our own paths. What really bothers me is that there a lot of pretenders, pretending to be open with their sexuality while outside of social media, they are the most outspoken against the LBGT community. They are on Facebook, twitter or instagram browsing for dates and hookups via bbm or whats app. But if you go on their personal page, you see pictures of them and their “man”. You would also see derogatory comments about lesbians and gays. You know the usual “no woman to mi ting”, “no dyke can style mi”. That sort of thing. My thing is this, if you choose to be in the closet, that’s ok, but don’t put others down for doing the same thing you’re doing. Keep sneaking around on Facebook looking for hookups, but don’t dislike me for being open with my sexuality. So to all the Facebook lesbians, don’t judge me. If you want to judge someone, look in the mirror.
Good luck on your journey–GJ
Originally posted on Omit Limitation:
In Jamaica, it isn’t news to anyone that tensions between LGBT youth and residents are high. Attacks, rape, and murder are sadly a normal occurrence, with the government and police giving little to no attention to it. A while back, Vice took to the streets of Jamaica, specifically the gully where homeless queer youth take refuge. This mini-doc delves into their day to day, and the struggles of what it means to be gay and homeless in Jamaica.
Bri , Photographer, and Staff Writer for #Underground
Originally posted on Politics, Politics, and More Politics:
82% of Jamaicans view homosexuality as
morally wrong according to a 2011 survey taken by the University of the West Indies in Kingston. It’s nothing new, and both LGBT rights and the criminalizing of homosexuality became a hot topic in 2011. Prime Minister Portia Simpson-Miller talked about reviewing the laws to decriminalize homosexuality in her campaign.
Since then, there were a number of high profile hate crimes which included the stabbings of a gay man in Montego Bay and a gender non-conforming 17 year old in St James, both of which occurred in just 2013. There was also a lawsuit that looked to evict homeless LGBT youth who had been forced to live in a public sewer in New Kingston. Public figures have recently begun to come out in force to support the LGBT community.
In a way, this is great, but at the same point, you have to ask…
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As a newbie to the lesbian scene, I often tend to second guess the choices I make when it comes to the women I date. Some would Say I am picky or my standards are too high. For me, it all boils down to knowing my worth. Someone made a comment that got my attention and got me thinking. The comment was “Are you sure you’re a lesbian”? It caught me off guard, because I know for sure I like women. When I asked what she meant by that, her response was that I still look at men and make sexual comments if I see a good looking man. I may be a lesbian, but I’m not blind, was my response. Apparently that’s a no-no in the lesbian handbook. Now I’m questioning my own sexuality. I have dated and slept with men in the past, but that was before I came to term with who I am; a woman that likes women. I also know that if I had accepted the fact that I was gay before I ever slept with a man, it would have never happened; had sex with a man I mean. Could the fact that once upon a time I used to date men play into this? It could also be that I’ve been there and I know what I’m missing. After all, I am a woman; and as women we enjoy the pleasures of our womanhood. In all honesty, I know that a woman can never pleasure me that way a man could. Why it could never happen with a woman, is that as a more masculine lesbian, I will never allow another woman to ‘Strap’ me. At this point in time, I can not say for sure that I will never again have sex with a man; but I do know that I love women. So I don’t know if that makes me a bisexual? I haven’t slept with a man in some years now, but I’m not certain if I’m done with that part of my life. I need some advice.