Hi, I am a les in Portmore looking for 20-40 for friendship and maybe more.
GJ: I purposely didn’t put your contact info in the post. The only reason I posted this is to let everyone know that this is not a place for hook-ups. We are in the business of uplifting and encouraging gay Jamaicans. Thank You and good luck on your journey.
Hi, I am a male in Jamaica and I like other men. It is against what I believe and I don’t want to go to hell. I don’t want people to look at me funny or call me ‘battyman’. I want a wife and children. I don’t want to be gay. I want to live a life in the eyes of the Lord, but I don’t feel I could love another woman the way I should. What should I do, I need your advice.
GJ: From what I can see you are a religious man, so I understand your dilemma. My advice to you is that you can choose to be whoever you want, but you cannot hide from what you are. What I mean is that you can choose to get married and have a family, but your feelings towards men are never going to change. I hope that helped. Good luck on your journey.
Hello, I am a 22 female from Kingston. I recently told my family that I am a lesbian. Some don’t care, but some are against it. They called me all sort of name. I told them they can feel how they feel, but I don’t care. It feel so good. But I saw you wrote about how to come out to your parents. My mommy is against it now but maybe she will change her mind one day. Thank you for giving me the strength to tell them, because it was really stressing.
GJ: I am happy that you can now live your life and be content. It warms my heart to know that I made a difference in one person’s life. Keep the faith and good luck on your journey.
Over the past years, gay Jamaicans have been more willing to come out and admit openly to their sexuality. What is causing this shift in the culture is still being speculated. It could be that the gay community just doesn’t care what others have to say or do about it? Maybe Jamaicans are becoming more accepting of gay culture. In all my years living in Jamaica, I cannot remember seeing two men or two women kissing in public. Now, in certain parts of the island, same sex PDA is a non-issue. There are night clubs to accommodate the gay community. There are advocacy and resource centers to guide the next generation. The culture has definitely changed from what I remembered; and it has changed for the better. The ‘dancehall’ community is still the driving force behind the anti-gay movement in Jamaica. A lot of the artistes, in their lyrics, condone the degradation and physical harm of homosexuals. It is in these ‘dancehall’ settings where you see most of the negative behavior. Outside of dancehall, the majority of the population could care less what you do and who you do it with. If you look back say ten years ago, Jamaica has come a long way. The journey for equality and justice in Jamaica has just begun. There is a long road ahead; but a cause worth fighting for is never short lived. My hope for Jamaica is to become a nation of tolerance, equality and most importantly, a nation that upholds the sanctity of human rights.
From personal experience, I know that telling your parents that you are gay is a frightening thought. For those of you who are thinking about taking that plunge, my advice to you is don’t be scared. Parents’ love for their children is usually unconditional. So no matter what you do in life, their love for you will never change. So just keep that in mind. I’m sure you’re hoping for the best but expecting the worst; don’t. Sit your parents down and have a heart to heart. Don’t be nervous. Be confident in who you are in and your decision to come out. The news might be shocking to them at first, and they might even try to tell you that it’s just a phase. That is why I say you have to be confident in who you are. Once they see that you mean what you say, their thought process will change. They will see that you’re firm in your stance. There might be a moment of awkward silence, but that’s normal. Give them a minute, let it sink in. More than likely, you will hear these words “You are our child and we will love you no matter what.” Those are the same exact words I heard when I told my parents. After having that conversation, you will feel as if the world was lifted off your shoulders. So again, for those of you who are thinking about coming out to your parents; take a deep breath, don’t be scared. It is merely part of the process. I will be happy to share my experience; please feel free to ask. Good luck on your journey. GJ
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I’ve often said that one of the keys to make the process of coming out easier is to have a good support system. Unfortunately, I did not have any support at all. No one knew I was gay, so I couldn’t talk to anyone about it. After living in agony, I decided to tell someone I knew. We weren’t friends, but she was someone that I felt comfortable enough to talk to. After listening to me talk for an hour, she suggested that I see a therapist. I flat out told her NO. I’m Jamaican, and we don’t do that. After weeks of nagging, she wore me down. I can admit now that that was the best decision I ever made. It took months before I got comfortable with opening up to a stranger. I realized that I had to open up and let her in in order for her to help me. It felt so invigorating to get everything off my chest. To feel and see the emotions ooze out of me. It broke me down. Even though I was paying her, it felt good to have someone to talk to. I didn’t agree with what she was telling me, but now I look back and see that she was right. The therapy process was an eye opener. I didn’t have to rush, she really allowed me to go at my own pace. Therapy allowed me to be myself. No one judged me. It was a place where I could talk, vent, and share my thoughts without being ridiculed. I said it before, but going to therapy was the best decision I’ve made to date. I definitely would not have had the courage to come out without all the guidance support and reassurance I received. So for those of you that are struggling with who you are, who and what you want to be; I suggest seeing a therapist. It will change your life for the better. Feel free to reach out to me for advice. Good luck on your journey.
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